My friend Seanna, over at https://seannaacey.wordpress.com/, did this quiz, and I enjoyed it so much I decided to do it too!
1} What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? I emailed someone one of my stories I’d written, and he said it was the funniest thing he’d ever read, and that I should consider making more. :) (And no, not everyone is going to be lucky enough to read it. So please don’t ask).
2} What’s one thing you’re deeply proud of — but would never put on your résumé? My stories that I write.
3} What’s the most out-of-character choice you’ve ever made? Probably trying to be outgoing in high school. I tried to be witty and clever, and often ended up saying dumb things, and I found it was easier just to be quiet. Of course, then people made fun of me for being quiet….I can’t win.
4} If a mysterious benefactor wrote you a check for $5,000 and said, “Help me solve a problem — any problem!”, what would you do with him or her? Before I say yes I’ll need to know a few things: what is the problem at hand? Will it be a moral gray area? Why do you think I can solve the issue?
5} What’s going to be carved on your (hypothetical) tombstone? Hmm….hopefully that I liked to laugh, and that I was a faithful Bookmobiler. <3
6} What are you FREAKISHLY good at? I can crack a lot of my joints. Knuckles, wrists, ankles, toes, back, knees, legs, upper legs, hips, and sometimes my chest and arms.
7} What’s one dream that you’ve tucked away, for the moment? How come? I would love to be a foster and adoptive parent someday, because there are so many hurting kids out there that need good homes. I’ve tucked it away simply because I haven’t found my Prince Charming yet.
8}What are you STARVING for? Affection, understanding, companionship.
9} If you could have tea with one fictional character, who would it be? You can laugh….but I would love to have tea with the Three Stooges (their characters in the shorts, not the people who played them). And yes, I know the question said ONE fictional character….oh well. I’m a rebel.
10} Do you have a morning ritual? Get up, put my contacts lenses in, take a shower, get dressed, wash my face, brush my teeth, blow dry and straighten my hair, grab my purse and lunchbox, and out the door.
11} Do you believe in magic? When have you felt it? Literally speaking, no, I do not believe magic exits. I do believe that there are moments in life that are enchanting that the only way to equate them with would be magical.
12} Is there something that people consistently ask for your advice on? What is it? Not particularly. People ask me a variety of things, but never usually the same thing again and again.
13} Have you ever fantasized about changing your first name? To what? I’ve daydreamed about it, but I like my name, and I feel it would be hard to get used to a name change.
14} When was the last time you astonished yourself? Any time I finish a story, I astonish myself.
15} What’s your personal anthem or theme song? “Who Says” by Selena Gomez. That’s such an upbeat, catchy song with a positive message.
16} Do you ever yearn for your life before Facebook? Yes and no. I like Facebook as a way of keeping in touch with people, but sometimes I think life before Facebook was so much simpler.
17} What’s your definition of an ideal house guest? Someone who has good manners, helps around the house, and doesn’t overstay their welcome.
18} If you had an extra $100 to spend on yourself every week, what would you do? I’d probably put it in savings.
19} If you could sit down with your 15-year old self, what would you tell him or her? Ashley, I know things seem set in stone right now, but things WILL change. They WILL get better. You WILL get your dream job, with co-workers you love. You WILL be able to get your license, and some of your shyness will go away. Also, push yourself out of your comfort zone. It’s okay to be an introvert, but speak up more and get out of your shell.
21} What are you BORED of? Being single.
21} What’s the best birthday cake you’ve ever ate? When I was 7, we got a Christmas cake for me from the grocery store, and it had a candy Santa, sleigh, and reindeer. THAT was probably the best cake I ever had!
22} How do you engage with panhandlers on the street? Ignore them and hope they go away.
23} Do you think LOVE is chemical, intellectual, spiritual — or completely undefinable? I think it can be each of these. People fall in love for so many reasons and easily fall out of love as well.
24} Have you ever dreamed about starting a business? (Or if you’ve already got one — a new business?) Before I got my library job, yes, I had dreamed about it. I thought about starting a small bakery and baking goodies (nothing major- just cookies, cakes, brownies, bars, and pies), or perhaps running a daycare center. At the same time, I know it’s a lot of work to run your own business, and the thought of doing my own taxes, as well as a customer possibly being displeased with me, scared me. So I decided not to pursue it.
25} Are you afraid of flying in airplanes? (How come?) I’m not really afraid of flying in planes. I’ve flown before. However, ever since 9/11 and the Malaysian airplane going down, I have been more nervous than usual to fly.
26} What’s your most urgent priority for the rest of the year? Hopefully to get a boyfriend, and possibly get published.
27} If you could master any instrument on earth, what would it be? I’d have to say either the clarinet, or piano. I played clarinet and bass clarinet in high school, and we have an organ at home that I rarely play.
28} Have you ever been genuinely afraid for your physical safety? Yes. When our youth group went to Costa Rica in 2010, some of us girls went to this couple’s house (they were house parents for Al & Naomi, a couple from our church), and the Costa Rican couple had a son who was not a Christian. (I think that’s right; it’s been so long). At one point he was on the front porch with me and 3 or 4 other girls, just smiling at us while we talked. He may have been a nice guy, I don’t know, but I remember one of the girls telling someone, “Go get Al”, because we all felt nervous around him. He may not have been a nice guy. Who knows?
29} What are you an expert on? Is it because of training, lived experience, or both? I am a expert on klutziness. I have slipped going down steps, tripped over a crack in the sidewalk, and been hit in the head by flying objects. (I SWEAR my head is this magnet for any flying object…one time at church we had a carry-in, and one guy at our table wadded up a candy wrapper, and tossed it to the table across from us. They started to get into it, and of COURSE a wadded up wrapper hits me in the head! >:( And I wasn’t even joining in!)
30} Has a teacher ever changed your life? How so? When I was in eighth grade, my Reading and English teacher Mrs. Alexander once told me, “Just work hard, and you’ll do fine”. I always remembered that. I also liked my high school Band teacher, Mr. Thomas. He was the happiest, jolliest man ever! He NEVER yelled. If he was annoyed and had to be stern, he would just say something very firmly. But I don’t ever recall him raising his voice. He often said, “Silence is golden”. (Kind of ironic for a band teacher to say that!) I try to remember that for those awkward silences. Silence is golden.
31} Are there any household chores you secretly enjoy? Which ones — and why? I actually don’t mind laundry. I like folding it while I watch TV.
32} How do you reign in self-critical voices? Tell myself positive quotes and Bible verses. Also kind things that people have said to me.
33} If you could custom blend a perfume or cologne, what would it include? I would include lavender, vanilla, and maybe some roses.
34} What does FEAR feel like, in your body? My heart pounds and my stomach twists itself in knots.
35} Do you think you’re currently operating at 100% capacity? I like to think so.
36} What do you value most: free time, recognition, or money? All of the above. 1} I love the free time to be able to spend it with my family. 2} I also like being recognized because it makes me feel like people see me for me, not the quiet, shy girl so many people see on the outside. 3}. Money would be nice, because I admit sometimes it’s hard being tight on money.
37} If you could save one endangered species from extinction, which would you choose? Well, I know this is relating to animals, but I’m going to go against the flow and say babies. (I’m a rebel, remember?) So many babies are aborted every day, and if I could save all those babies, I would.
38} Are there any laws or social rules that completely baffle you? I don’t understand how a drunk driver can get a slap on the wrist, and a sex offender just has to register as a sex offender the rest of his/her life. Why can’t the drunk driver and sex offender be put away for life so they don’t harm anyone else? Also, I never understood the rule about not wearing white after Labor Day. Why? I’m sure I’ve done it. And if it’s still in effect, when can you start wearing white again? Can you only wear white between May and September?
39} Would you like to write a book? (About what?) Yes, I would. About what? Possibly my life. My autobiography. Or maybe just some fan-fiction and hope it’s popular enough to publish.
40} If you could choose your own life obstacles, would you keep the ones you have? Good, bad, ugly, I wouldn’t change the path God set for me. Of course there were times I where I experienced tragedy, depression, and heartache. I would have preferred not to, but that isn’t how life works. I feel blessed that my life has been easy compared to others.
41} Have you ever SCREAMED at someone? (What did they do?) I have shouted/yelled at someone, but I don’t think I’ve ever screamed at a person. And I would rather not say what they did on here.
42} Do you think there’s going to be an anti-technology whiplash, in our lifetime? I don’t think so. I think this technology makes life easier for us, and yet it complicates things at the same time. There can be a lack of privacy at times.
43} Where + when do you get your BEST IDEAS? Usually at night when I’m trying to sleep. Or when I’m just listening to music. Although I want to give God credit for my ideas. He plants the ideas and details in my mind, and gives me the ability and talent to write.
44} Have you ever met one of your HEROES? That’s a tough one. I like to think that people who overcome adversity are my heroes, and I have some close friends who have done that, so I’d say they’re my heroes. So yes, I have met my heroes. :)
45} What’s in your fridge, right this moment? Food. And drinks.
46} Can you tell when someone is lying? Sometimes. Sometimes it’s obvious, and other times, not so much.
47} Can you tell when someone is telling the TRUTH? Usually.
48} Have you ever pushed your body further than you dreamed possible? Yes, when I was going for a walk. Sometimes I’d make myself run until I was sure I was going to collapse. My lungs hurt, my legs hurt, and I was panting like crazy.
49} Are you living your LIFE PURPOSE — or still searching? Both. I still desire to marry a good, godly man and be a foster and adoptive parent someday, but I honestly am content with my library job, and minister to my fellow bookmobile co-workers.
50} Have you ever had to make a public apology? (How come?) I’ve had to apologize, but I don’t consider it a public apology. Although I once apologized to Mom and Eric was in the next room, so maybe that counts.
51} What’s the WORST piece of advice you’ve ever been given? That I need to change my personality.
52} Do you think we’re designed for monogamy? (Why or why not?) This is a complicated question. First of all, we’re human, and we tend to do things that go against the Bible. Like lie, cheat, steal, divorce, commit adultery, etc. Obeying the Bible goes against our human nature, and most times our human nature does not like/can’t commit to monogamy. We’re with someone for a while, and then we either get bored, or just can’t get along with them, so we quit and go on to someone else. Or have an affair or have multiple spouses (like the people on “Sister Wives”). Some people divorce more than once, and I think no, we’re not designed for monogamy. If you want it, you have to be willing to work hard at it.
53} How do you CELEBRATE your victories? Tell a friend, and listen to some happy, upbeat music.
54} Would you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert? Introvert. Although I’m not nearly as shy as I was in school, I still am very much introverted.
55} Do you ever hunt for answers or omens in dreams? I do believe that God still speaks to people through dreams today. But not every dream is necessarily one from God speaking to you. Some are just crazy, weird dreams.
56} Do you think everyone has the capacity to be a LEADER? I think if you’re in an extreme situation where you HAD to rely on yourself, then yes, you could be a leader. I think everyone has that capacity. Some more so than others, maybe.
57} Is WAR a necessary EVIL? War is hell, period. I am not for war, but I support our military in war. If there weren’t such evils throughout time, there would be no need for war. So yes, war is a necessary evil.
58} Are YOU a starter, a finisher, or an implementer? I am both a starter and a finisher. It may take me a while to finish, but I do try to get it done!
59} Have you ever unplugged from the Internet for more than a week? No, I have not.
60} Do you think we should live like we’re dying? Absolutely. Because we are never promised tomorrow.
61} Do you have any habits or quirks you wish you could ERASE? Talking to myself, and being so OCD about stuff.
62} What was the most AGONIZING hour of your life? When I was betrayed by someone.
63} Have you ever dramatically changed a habit, or gotten yourself out of a rut? How’d you do it? Sadly, I don’t think I have. :(
64} Would you rather be a lonely genius, or a sociable idiot? A lonely genius.
65} How would YOU fix the economy? Pure and simple: STOP SPENDING MONEY YOU DON’T HAVE! How can we expect out nation to get out of debt if we are spending money we don’t have like crazy?
66} What was your very first job? Baby-sitting for my second cousins, Tiana and Natasha. They were in elementary school when I started baby-sitting them, and now Tiana is in college and Tasha is in high school! (I think she’s a sophomore). Boy, do I feel old.
67} What brings you SHEER DELIGHT? Reading a new book. Buying something I’ve wanted for a long time. Getting a compliment or hug from one of my bookmobile co-workers. Watching my favorite movies and TV shows. Holding babies.
68} Are you highly useful in a CRISIS? I do tend to panic, and have to tell myself to calm down. I’d like to think I’d be useful, but I guess only time will tell.
69} Do you like to be SAVED — or do the saving? Both. There was been a couple instances when I had car trouble, and my Dad had to come and “save” me. But there have been times when we’ve been short-staffed on the bookmobile department, and I got to go on the bus at the last minute! :D
70} What’s one mistake you keep repeating (and repeating)? Being too quiet. Listening and observing too much, and not speaking up enough.
71} If you were heading out on a ROAD TRIP right this minute, what would you pack? Depending how long the trip was: All the necessary toiletries, clothes, laptop, DVDs, extra money, map, CD players, CDs, and books.
72} Do you have any irrational fears? I hate spiders, centipedes, mice, cockroaches, bees, wasps, hornets, yellow jackets, and snakes.
73} When you see peers + competitors getting things you want, how do you react? I’m usually 50/50. When all my cousins were getting engaged and planning their weddings, I was happy for them, but also somewhat envious. Why isn’t it happening for me? And now that all my cousins are popping out kids, that same bittersweet feeling entangles me. Happy for them, yet it’s like a knife in my heart, wondering why my Heavenly Father doesn’t seem to hear my heart’s cry.
74} If you were to die three hours from now, what would you regret most? I would probably regret not trying hard enough in certain areas of my life. Not pushing myself hard enough.
75} What’s something you’ve tried, that you’ll never, ever try again? Driving through a drive-thru. Tried it once and ended up with a fender-bender. Now I just go inside.
76} If you could enroll in a PhD program, with your tuition paid in full by a mysterious benefactor, what would you study — and why? Since I was only a teen, I was pressured and pressured to attend college and I honestly have no desire to attend a university and gain a degree in any field. I always just wanted to work and earn my own money. This May will be 10 years since I’ve graduated, and I still have no such desire to attend college.
77} Have you ever had a complete + total nervous breakdown? (How did you recuperate?) I’ve never had a complete nervous breakdown, but I remember being so depressed at one point and wishing I were numb so I couldn’t feel anything. Thankfully, I saw the error of that and although I had a lot of hurts, I was thankful that I could feel them and not be numb.
78} Have you ever set two friends up on a date? (How did it go?) I have not set any friends up on a date, though I have been set up on a blind date before.
79} Have you ever questioned your FAITH — or lack thereof? At times, yes. Sometimes I wonder why God allows so much evil and pain in the world. All I can do is trust that He is God, He’s perfect and can do no wrong, and He knows what He’s doing.
80} What’s your recipe for recuperating from extreme heartbreak? Take time for yourself. Do what makes YOU happy. And take as long as you need to grieve. Some people may tell you, “It’s been a year already, get over it!” Don’t listen to them. There is NO limit to grieving. Grieve and mourn as long as you need to. A broken heart can be healed, but there will always be a scar.
81} Have you ever had a psychic reading? Did you believe it? Was it accurate? I don’t buy into that nonsense.
82} Have you ever (actually) kept a New Year’s Resolution? Yes, for 2014 I resolved to give up pop for the year (except if I sick and vomiting; then I’d allow myself Sprite or 7-Up or something). Thankfully I never threw up, and I made it without tasting pop once!
83} Have you ever met someone who was genuinely EVIL? There were mean guys and girls in high school, but I don’t know if I’d say they were genuinely evil. People like Osama bin Laden, Saddam Hussein, and Jihadi John; they’re genuinely evil, in my opinion.
84} Do you believe that everyone deserves redemption + forgiveness? This is a hard question actually. I want everyone to experience redemption and the forgiveness I have received in my faith. But then there’s the three men I named above. 2 of them are dead. One of them I wish was dead. If he ever is captured, I would want the death penalty on him, asap.
85} What was the BEST KISS of your entire life? I was kissed once by a guy in high school, but he kissed me on the cheek. (I want to save my first lip kiss for marriage). That was pretty much the only kiss of my life (unless you count my parents kissing my boo-boos away when I was a kid).
86} Do you secretly miss Polaroid cameras? No. I actually like digital cameras. They make life so much easier.
87} Do you have any physical features that you try to cloak or hide? How come? My stomach, because it looks like I’m pregnant (I once had a 4 year old boy from our church ask me if I was having a baby). And also my teeth, because I have an overbite, and my bottom ones are crooked.
88} What makes YOU so special, anyway? (No, really.) I’m the only one of me the world has ever or will ever see.
89} What’s in your pocket (or purse, or man-purse) right now? Hand sanitizer, floss, Vaseline, nail clipper, eye drops, Tylenol, gloves, sunglasses, tissues, lotion, billfold, Chapstick, pens, feminine products, gum, orange Tic-Tacs, library lanyard, checkbook, and savings book.
90} Ever fantasize about being in a rock band? What would your group be called? I’ve daydreamed about it, but I wouldn’t pursue it. Hmmm…..maybe Rose Garden.
91} What’s your guiltiest of guilty pleasures? My love of the old slapstick comedy group The Three Stooges.
92} Who’s on your panel of imaginary mentors? First are these people real or fictitious? And how many am I allowed? This could take a while. ;)
91} Are these people I make up or people in the past who I would love to have as mentors? If it’s the first, you don’t want to know. If it is the second:I have a lot of dear friends I consider my mentors. Linda (my bookmobile co-worker), Vicki (I used to baby-sit her daughters, Tiana and Natasha), and some dear Facebook friends.
93} Have you ever stolen anything? (Money, candy, hearts, time?) Yes, when I was about 6 or 7. My brother and I were with Mom at the grocery store, and they have a make-your-own-salad-bar. My brother and I each decided to get a pack of crackers from the salad bar, and put it in the cart. Now, I can’t speak for my brother, but I was afraid Mom was going to tell me “no”, so I kept it inside my pocket. Tyler did too. Mom found out when we got home, and she was not very happy. We didn’t have to go back to the store and apologize or anything, but we learned not to do that ever again.
94} When was the last time you saw an animal in the wild? When our youth group went to Costa Rica in 2010, we went zip-lining, and we divided up into groups. At one point my group was in a tree house, and we saw a lizard! It kinda freaked us out, though! :P I’ve also seen deer, squirrels, and stray cats around here, though that probably isn’t considered “the wild”.
95} What’s the hardest thing you ever had to write — and why? I often dream of writing my autobiography, but I haven’t written it yet because I’m too self-conscious, and because I’m afraid of hurting peoples’ feelings.
96} Who’s the last person that deeply disappointed you? (What happened?) An old classmate/former friend who betrayed me. I’d rather not say what happened. My new, close friends know about it, and that’s all that matters.
97} Have you ever won an award? What was it for? I have various awards from high school that I displayed at my high school graduation party. I’ve got awards from Band, Choir, all A’s in one class, etc.
98} How long can you (comfortably) go without checking your emails or texts? How do you feel about that? I can go without checking Facebook and Pinterest for a day or so, but I need to check my emails and texts every day!
99} What do you deserve + get to receive, no matter what? Respect. Respect as a woman and a fellow human being. I actually love it when men hold doors open for me, pull out a chair, etc. :D
100} What are you ready to set into motion, today? Most of the day is already over, but I plan to do some writing, and fold and put my laundry away.